Saturday, July 20, 2013

A huge thank you to an anonymous commenter and all the other people who cared and wished me well

Sometimes small acts of kindness have huge effects on the lives of others. Long ago and far away, ok maybe right here, I posted of my breakup and confusion. I was lost and didn't know what to do. I was torn between the comfort of the "known" and the fear of the unknown. I was depressed and luckily therefore not inclined to take action. I received so many emails from the people who read my blog telling me to hang in there. I talked the ears off of anyone that would listen to me. The turning point for me was an anonymous comment sent to me by someone who had a similar experience and advised me to stay here for a while and see if I really wanted to run home or if Costa Rica could be my home. Thank you ALL!!

I took the advice an renewed the lease on my house. That was in July of 2011. It was the best advice I could have received. I recently went through another rough spot in my life and lost someone very important to me. I am amazed at how much I have grown in the past 2 years. I had no doubts this time. I CAN do it on my own. I now have a really strong support system here. The loss of one friend does not leave me stranded. I accepted help more readily and have bounced even stonger. I am doing things I NEVER imagined I could. As I posted a few posts ago I DROVE to the airport. In San Jose, through the circles. I even remembered to breathe (thanks to my dear friend who suffered through my practice run). When I was moving here I read a ton of articles about the people here. They are wonderful caring people in general, but the thing I remember is one article saying that all bets are off once they get behind the wheel. It is a crazy drive here. Motorcycles pass on the right, regardless of whether you have your blinker on. They also seem to think the space between the double yellow lines on the road is a motorcycle lane. The drive to San Jose has a 2 hour pass through the mountail that is one big curve back and forth. If you are behind a slow vehicle you can count on a 5 hour trip or hold your breath and pass. The circles have like 4 lanes in the city and people exit from them all. This was a HUGE accomplishment for me. When I bought the Geo I remember saying I would never drive here. Now I drive like a Tico so watch out!!!!

Speaking of my little Geo. I sold it. By myself. Well with a little help from the Chayote Vine. I did the entire transaction, lawyer and all - sola! I even translated for the guy who bought it because his spanish was a little lacking. I bought a new car several months ago. (ok I had help on that one). I spluged and got a BMW woo hoo.
 
Turns out it is not the best choice for where I live so now I am looking to trade it for more of a workhorse. My road is too steep and rocky for this primadonna. It's a fun ride though and will be sorry to see her go.
 
Anyway - surprise I am off subject and rambling - I am doing GREAT! I am a totally different person than the fraidy cat that came here. Some of the changes I am not thrilled about. I am learning not to trust so much, there are a wealth of people looking to take advantage of you here. BUT there are more really great people who I am lucky to have had in my life. I feel like I can do anything I want to now, and I have learned that I don't need to depend on one person or worse face it alone. Moving to Costa Rica has been one of the biggest and best things I have ever done. Sticking it out has made me a better person.
 
Thanks to all of you who have supported me along the way. I look forward to my future accomplishments and adventures and hope to share them with you. 


2 comments:

  1. Hi Mary Lynn! So great to hear you are still here and still trying and still learning. I know that feeling of "what the heck have I gotten myself into this time?¨ myself. It happens. But the longer I stay here, the easier it gets and I wonder if I could ever go back and not drop dead from reverse culture shock. ;D

    Abrazos!

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  2. Thanks Casey! Yup I am still just up the hill from you guys. I have been catching up on your blog too. I know what you mean about reverse culture shock! It's so weird to feel like new jersey is a foreign place! Hope to see you guys around town...

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